There is a friend of mine whom I have recently suspected to be playing on our team. I haven’t known him that long, perhaps a little more than half a year. I base my judgment on how he dresses and the way he talks. He goes to the gym weekdays and weekends.
Not sure how to approach the subject, yet I was interested to know another gay friend. He knows about my interview in Singapore next week.
Last Thursday, while we were having lunch.
Me: So yeah, the person that isn’t too happy about me going to Singapore is my boyfriend. He said that he would prefer me to go anywhere else but there, coz the people there are prettier.
Him: Is it? I don’t think so. I think Hong Kong they have better looking people; people who really know how to dress. Singapore not so much. I have also noticed the people in the gym, they dress really nice and have nice bodies.
Me: Anyway, are you seeing anyone?
Him: Yeah, I am seeing someone. But we’re having some trouble between us … blah, blah, blah
He didn’t mention the pronoun of his partner. Actually he did. But I couldn't catch it properly. Even when he said it like, five times. It sounded very much like he.
Or perhaps it was just me being hopeful.
This was how I proceeded.
Me: So where does he or she work?
Him: In a bank.
More conversation followed. I think he seemed hesitant whenever he mentioned the pronoun of his partner.
I couldn't wait any longer.
Me: Hold on, but I didn’t get the gender of your partner. Is it a he or she?
Him: It’s she.
Oh well. At least I know. And he knows about me. We still talk like usual. No awkwardness. It didn’t bother him much.
And fortunately, the whole thing didn't backfire.
The next day, we went out for lunch again.
Perhaps it was this connection that we have that got my gaydar all wrong. Though I still have a feeling that he is.