A relationship entails a lot of give and take; compromises. On one hand, one is supposed to accept the other party for who he is - his strengths and weaknesses.
On the other, there are expectations on him, which he might not be able to fulfill.
Is there an equilibrium between the two contrasting aspects? If there isn't and the scale tips towards the latter, is that when a break up happens?
I believe that one should try to please the other as much as he can. Without compromising on one's principles/individuality/wants if possible. Or whenever he can.
For example, if he likes shopping and I don't and he wants me to come along, it's something which I could do and if it makes him happy, I don't see why not.
Not that I am an expert in relationships, but I am still learning as I go along. There are so many things which I don't know about him yet - his expecations, needs, wants, dreams, etc.
But he has been patient with me and letting me make my mistakes and learn from them.
Thank you, dear.
Likewise, sometimes I wish he would grow up a little, do things this way or that or whatever.
Nevertheless I realised that he's still growing. There are things which he has yet to learn and I have to let him learn in time. At his own pace.
I have to learn to be more patient. I don't know how he'll turn out, but essentially, I think he would still be the same. Or even a better version of who is now.
He will change. I will change. Hopefully, with even with all those changes, we'll still love one another.
And I think we will.
CF and I are really quite different people. I know people say opposites attract thing. It sounds nice and all, but in reality, sometimes he really drives me up the wall (and he'll cheekily said that I drive him to the moon).
It's amazing to the both us that we're still together.
Basically what I am saying that we all have expectations. He has his expectations and I have mine on him. But I am willing to change my expectations because it's him. Just as he is trying to do things for me because he knows I'll like it, even though he may not be willing.
The middle path. Tolerance.
Or maybe, it's just because we want our relationship to work and we'll do whatever it takes to make it happen.
I truly want you to be happy. I want us to be happy.
P/S I am writing this on a Saturday evening in the office! Had to come back to finish something due on Monday. Contemplative (and slightly mushy) mood came over, so this is what came out. Not sure whether it's completely coherent though. ;P