Most people would say that love is a feeling. But feeling changes, it’s ephemeral. One day I can be really happy and up-and-about and the next I could have wake up on the wrong side of the bed.
The feeling of love makes me feel like doing mushy and romantic stuff. Nevertheless, the act of love or a loving gesture, even without the feeling of love, can induce the loving feeling.
For example, even when I am feeling upset, I would still show concern and care for my partner. I would still hug him, touch him, ask how his day was, even when I don’t feel like talking or am too tired.
Without realizing it, the feeling of love would come. Which explains why love can be nurtured. And also arranged marriages.
Not that I am a proponent of the latter.
I am one who is expressive and don’t see the point of keeping my feelings in a bottle. We’re humans after all and we’re creatures of emotions, not a piece of brick. Obviously, this would mean that people can read my emotions well, especially if I like someone a lot.
Call me a romantic or what, but I do believe that love can makes me want to do great things, impossible things, silly things. It energises me and gives me strength. Listening to my partner’s voice makes me feel good and warm inside. It elicits the desire to make him happy and contented always.
This is my style of love. I believe in living and loving passionately. Which of course would entail painful heartbreaks as well if things don’t work out. I realized it’s a little reckless, but still ….
I trust him completely. Someone said that love is like giving one’s heart to another and trusting that he won’t break it.
For me, I don’t see the point of loving another if I still want to hold back a part of myself.
True, it may be wiser to hold back something, just in case the other person does break my heart, to lessen the pain if it were to happen, but then, isn’t life about living fully?
In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage. - Robert Anderson
A marriage without conflicts is almost as inconceivable as a nation without crises. - Andre' Maurois
“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. – Tolstoy
Maybe I expect too much. Maybe I should lower my expecations, for the sake of us.
P/S Just want to write down my thoughts and feelings. Don't worry, both of us are OK. ;P